what are you doing? (ranty)

My pet hate right now is being asked... "WHAT ARE YOU DOING THIS WEEK?",  "WHAT HAVE YOU GOT PLANNED FOR TODAY?"  or any variations of those.  And while sometimes a friend who is working full-time will ask this, it's when my mum and sister ask (because that's how they're starting conversations these days) that really gets to me - probably because they always ask (not to hear the answer, but to tell me what they're doing).  I know - it's not a rude question, and yes, maybe it annoys me so much more because I'm once again trying out the minipill (don't think it's going too well, eh!) and everything is annoying me more, but I'm a SAHM... What the heck do they think the answer to that question is?!?  For want of a better answer I end up saying something like 'er, the usual, I'm housewifing it today' or if I've got a playgroup or something on I'll say I'm off to that.  I'm not about to list every little chore that somehow fills up the whole day and keeps me busy enough!  The result is that my family swing between thinking I'm incredibly boring and sit at home cleaning and watching TV all week and no longer have anything interesting to say about anything, or that I spend all week flitting about on coffee dates (leading to the time honoured tradition my mother has of telling me how she didn't have it anywhere near as easy).  If I'm asked once more I'm going to go postal at whoever the unsuspecting person is.  Most likely a family member, any one of which would frankly would deserve getting their head bitten off anyway (issues, issues).  Anyway, this really annoys me (he he... I keep having to go back while I type and delete my language... am making an effort to clean it up now for Ella!) because when I was working, no-one ever asked that and never needed to.  It was a given that I was busy working all week.  Now that I'm working at being a mum and looking after this house, it's like people think I'm not 'doing' anything.  GRRRRRR! 

Well Andie, all I can say to that is,


"What are you doing today???"


*ducks for cover* tee hee

Grrr it really does get me too. Umm yea my to-do list today is grocery shopping, doing the dishes, and I'd really like to 'fit' a sleep in there sometime too. Sounds lame in my own ears let alone the insentives out there! Fortunately I don't have much trouble with in-laws about that but... I have my sister. Is that worse or what?

But I love to tease Andie

I hate people asking me that oo.. well my mum especially.. cos even after i've said "well i've worked 4 days in a row and ihave 1 day off before 3 more" she'll still go "oh, so when am i going to see you?" hello lady - i have 1 day, to spend with my kids.. 1day. if you want to see me get off your butt and come see me... he he..

but Andie - you know what question really gets to me.. both when i was a full time SAHm and a less-than-full-time SAHM.. and now when i have days off.. is when someone (not naming names here) comes home and says "so, what have you done today?" sometimes i call his bluff and say i sat on my A... and ate chocolate. (really, it's the truth but how dare he imply that.. he he)

Yeah, I always feel that is a loaded question if it comes from dh/dp etc, or the what have you done today? It could actually mean that, but I always see the mess ont he bench or the unvaccummed carpet and think that is what he means...

LOL Willie would be waaaaaay to scared to come home and ask me what I've done all day - that would be a month-long ticket to the spare room!

i know what you mean andie!
i hate it when people ask that, another pet hate is "what've you been up to?" which i get all the time. well duh, i've been doing exactly the same thing i was doing when you last asked me that!

and haha emma, glad to see you've got willie well trained.

Yip I am in the "So what have you done all day boat" My DH doesn't notice that they carpet is vaccumed and the washing is done, folded and put away, that the floors have been scrubed....etc, etc. Thankfully after the last time it was an exteremly quite two nights with me ignoring him and he hasn't said it since!!!! Bloody men.

...come to think of it though, I guess I've always held off from listing what's kept me busy for the day because it'd make for a boring conversation - but if I DO do that, people will soon stop asking!

Well - i'm not a SAHM mum yet - well I guess I am cos I am a mum but I just don't have a child at home with me yet - but if anyone asked me what I have been up to today, I would have to blush and say that I only just woke up!!