Wheres the drive?!

Hey girls

I dont know what to do, i have absolutely no sex drive what so ever not even an inkling, im a newly wed and love my husband to bits but i feel really mean coz i have no desire to please him or put out so to speak did anyone else have this problem and when did it return?

Yeah I was like you Jess. It did return when I was about 5 months, but by then Daniel was NOT keen!!

I had quite a high drive during both my pregnancies, but I bled so much with Josiah it kinda put a dampner on things. I didn't fully get my sex drive back until Josiah was a couple of months old and all the random bleeding had stopped.

That aside, us women are funny creatures. The more sex we have, the more we want! AND, if we tell ourselves we are maybe a little interested in some fun with our partners, then we will enjoy that fun more! What I did to help get my drive back was tell Nathaniel in the morning that I was going to jump him that evening, then the for rest of the day the anticipation would help get me in the mood to follow through on my promise.

I had a really high sex drive while preggers but now it is at ZILCh and hubby is not impressed so sorry can't help either....

I had a huge sex drive with my first, then nothing with my second and third, I'm probably lucky hubby didn't go walk about. Talk about being patient. I was 4 months pregnant with our second on our wedding night and he didn't even get it then.

My hubby is very understanding and to be honest we both feel it would be a little wierd...silly I know!

Probably a good thing seeing as I have as much interest in sex as I do in have a root canal with no pain relief!

Yeh hes being really good about it and i said i wasnt gonna do it for the sake of doing it coz then id get sick of it, i dont think he can fully grasp that idea lol but hes getting there Kinda hard to want it when you have round ligament pain etc lol

Hey Jess

I have this problem too with this pregnancy, wasnt a problem the first time around but this time I have absolutely NO interest at all, I'd rather go to sleep lol.  By 6 weeks after DS all was ok again, they just have to learn to be patient lol

hehe. go ana!!!
As for me, drive is pertty much gone, although with Lewis back in Japan, it's probably a relief to him, rather than a misery. However, I must say that using it for guilt-tripping works a treat.

"i'm just so tired after looking after the kids AND doing all th housework.." (me)
"Here baby, let me wash the dishes and vacuum for you tonight" (lew)
"oh, that wuold help a little....probably be feeling relaxed enough if you gave me a massage too...." (me)

Very good liz lmao!!!
I had a really high sex drive when preg and after had the boys. As for now - well since my ex and I broke up its nothing!! People ask if I miss sex but I'm way too busy running around after two 2year olds and to be quite honest have gotten used to not having to share my bed (unless one of my little dudes sneaks in in the middle of the night lol)