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ellabellame 
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 9:49am |
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so....i was cooking tea last night and all of sudden DP comes up behind me and put his arms around me. he then proceeds to say (without any lead up or warning or anything) "I've been thinking a lot about marriage lately".
I was completely taken off guard so what i blurted out was "oh have you? How many eggs do you want?"
the subject was effectively dropped but ever since then i've been wondering if maybe that wasn't what he wanted to hear. I don't want to give him the impression that i'm against marrying him, quite the opposite but i just wasn't prepared for him saying that, it came completely out of the blue!
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 9:58am |
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whoops, but then boys don't always have the best sense of timing......
It might just be one of those situations where you need to find another moment and be honest and start the conversation again.....giving him the chance to say what he was thinking??!?!?? just don't avoid it or it will be the 'elephant in the room.....'
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 10:59am |
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oops, maybe now you have had time to digest the thought, you could start a conversation with, 'so about this marriage idea, what were you thinking?'
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 11:00am |
Ooooo 
Gosh, what timing. Lol!
You might have to think of a way to subtley bring it up again  
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 12:59pm |
Ditto on what everyone else was saying. Try and bring up the subject again.
Maybe say those exact words back to him
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 1:33pm |
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Sorry I had a wee chuckle about your reply! But yea I can imagine that something out of the blue like that can throw you. As others have said, bring the subject up again, but maybe give him a little lead up to the topic so you don't throw him off guard this time!
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 2:16pm |
Lol, I had a giggle too 
I agree with what others have already said, sounds like you ned to start up the conversation again, best of luck!!! Oooh how exciting
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 2:28pm |
Just dont make it too subtle...men arent good with that. I'd do as raspberry said...
I nearly missed my proposal. It went like this ..
me" what do you want to do in Paris this weekend?"
DH" I dunno, maybe we could look for a ring, if you'll marry me"
Me (still walking along) " what???? what did you just say?"
I was so taken back that I didnt actually answer yes for a few minutes as I was trying to work out if that is what he had actually asked.....it was of course
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 4:55pm |
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How many eggs, that's gorgeous!!
I'd sit down next to him after the kids have gone to bed and after a few moments in a no pressure tone ask 'so what was it you had been thinking about marriage?'.
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 5:27pm |
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You know what I will go up to him and give him a hug and say Yes. (if that is what you want) And if he asked you Huh. Then tell him that thing that you said this morning and me stupidly replied to. Well my answer is Yes if you are going to ask that is what my answer will be. And if he is still confused tell him you thinking about marriage. When you are ready my answer will be yes.
That way he wont be pushed into it, you make it clear what you want and he doesnt need to feel like you perhaps dont want to get married.
I went down with a holiday with Grant and was suppose to fly up. We were lying on bed one day reading magazines or something and he looked at me all of a sudden and say Marry me. I literally laughed and told him he must be joking (we have only seen each other face to face for about 10 days by that stage before that we were friend on the net for about 4 or so months).
I looked up and he was crying. Literally had tears running down his face and I felt super bad. I thought he was just joking but did feel the same and told him Yes. (he did however ask me later again as well just to make sure I was all with it ect)
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 6:18pm |
It is never like in the movies & it was not on a bended knee for me, my DH popped the big question over a cuppa, think he was working up to it cause he made the cuppa, ha ha  , I had no idea & probably said something stupid like...oh ok then  We went & pick out a ring & he got it sized & he picked it up while I was in another shop & we meet in a crowed car park & he got down on 1 knee & asked me again as he slip that sparkly rock on my finger  of course I said yes & was glad he did not get run over
So if I was in your position & after having time to think about it & if my answer was yes, I would make him a cuppa & ask him when you are going "rock" shopping or what month is he free
If it is something you want don't wait just answer the question...oh its exciting
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 9:18pm |
Lmao that gave me a wee laugh as well.
I would casually be bringing it up to give him his chance to say what he wanted and you couls say what you think as well.
eek exciting
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Posted: 17 January 2010 at 9:34pm |
Haha, that's classic! DH and I were always going to get married (since we were teenagers) but I found out that he was actually planning on proposing when were were having an argument over money, more specifically how much of our money he was spending. Turns out he had designed a ring for me and was paying it off - oops Funny thing is that even though he knew I was going to say yes he was super nervous about proposing, men are funny like that. If you're open to marriage let your DP know.
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Posted: 18 January 2010 at 11:33am |
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weeell....last night, after the kids had gone to bed i super casually i started 'the conversation' :
me: "so you know how you said you'd been thinking about marriage?"
him: "yeah"
me: "so, uh, what made you say that?"
him: "because i have been"
me: "oh...........cool"
wow, we have amazing communication skills lol.
so, i've had a chat with my mates that are also his mates and i think they're going to have a wee chat with him........omg, i feel so juvenile!!
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Posted: 18 January 2010 at 11:40am |
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Love it!!!!
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Posted: 18 January 2010 at 2:22pm |
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Lol, that is too cute!!
MrsMojo, DH already knew I would say yes as well, but he was still super nervous about proposing too! I had even chosen the ring for him, just didn't know when he was going to pop the question. Funny men.
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Posted: 18 January 2010 at 4:49pm |
We went ring shopping and bought a ring together...
3months later and (believe it or not!) i got sick of it and asked him about it. We went to Queenstown for the weekend, nothing. THe next friday we went out for tea and was lying in bed after dinner and he said "I suppose you better have this" and rolled over after biffing it at me. Literally.
Males!
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Posted: 18 January 2010 at 5:23pm |
 Hunnybunny wrote:
We went ring shopping and bought a ring together...
3months later and (believe it or not!) i got sick of it and asked him about it. We went to Queenstown for the weekend, nothing. THe next friday we went out for tea and was lying in bed after dinner and he said "I suppose you better have this" and rolled over after biffing it at me. Literally.
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hahaha classic!! i must admit i'm expecting something like that from DP if he ever gets around to properly asking. he's a typical southern bloke, i'm not sure he even has a romantic bone in his body lol.
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Posted: 18 January 2010 at 8:10pm |
Hunnybunny we were the same.
Went ring shopping together on holiday, chose it together, three months later, I'm soaking wet and grumpy after a shoddy riding lesson and he's sitting on his cousins bench, and says 'want this?'.
Then I conveniently managed a head injury and lost some memory. The ring was being resized at the time, so I got a proper second proposal on a moonlit beach 
LOL ellabellame I LOVE the friends involvement!!
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Posted: 18 January 2010 at 11:00pm |
ellabellame wrote:
weeell....last night, after the kids had gone to bed i super casually i started 'the conversation' :
me: "so you know how you said you'd been thinking about marriage?"
him: "yeah"
me: "so, uh, what made you say that?"
him: "because i have been"
me: "oh...........cool"
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That's brilliant!
I apparently kept ruining DH's plans for proposing! We were at the Viaduct wandering around and every time he went to say something I would wander off. We finally sat still lon enough and he asked. He must have been nervous because apparently he was supposed to ask that night at dinner but he asked in the morning instead. He must have been pretty sure of my answer though as he asked my parents "permission" the week before
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hmmmm...what should i have said??
