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pepsi
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Topic: Porn Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:02pm |
Over the years that I have worked in IT, and in general conversations with guy mates it's pretty clear a lot of guys still hide their porn secrets from their significant others. Whether they are obtained via internet sites, sent via e-mail from friends, mags or DVDs.. whatever form they can get.
Some say that their DW/DP would never allow it and would be horrified, and others don't know what the reaction will be so they hide it anyway. Also a lot of my girlfriends that I have spoken to about it have talked of being very upset at discovering the secret and others say they would go ballistic. Personally I have to say I'm pretty much ok with it and DH doesn't hide anything. I have warned DH though that when the kids are older I don't want them finding daddy's special folder on the PC.. I suppose I also wonder if men ever grow out of it?
How do you feel about it in terms of your DH/DP indulging in it, really?
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:05pm |
This is going to be wierd but I would not be happy if he was indulging in it secretly and hiding it from me.
However we have enjoyed it together on several occasions.
Everyone now know far more about me than you ever wanted to???
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:09pm |
Ha Ha funny subject.I used to be all paraniod about it but really doesnt worry me now.Somtimes puts a bit of spice into life if ya watch somthing together.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:16pm |
Haha, yeah I can never look at you the same now
I guess I'm not really talking about the "together" porn, but the times he's looking when you're not around...
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:22pm |
I don't have a problem with it but now the girls are older I'm more aware of how these things are easy to find on the internet and it doesn't look good when you start typing in certain web site addresses and ***erotica.com etc pop's up I have told DH he really should delete them.
Funiest thing happened when I was about 17,Mum ask my sister to show her what a "blue movie" was so embarrassing seeing something like that with your mum
And if you knew my mum you'd be soooo shocked (she looks like Queen Elizabeth  )
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:37pm |
It doesn't really do it for me, and I don't think Willie is a great fan either, but he occasionally brings home dirty mags from work. I think he does it more coz everyone else at work does it than coz he particularly gets off on it, but even if he does, I have no issues. It's not a big secret or anything.
If he *was* hiding it I guess I'd be wondering WHY he felt the need to hide it rather than worrying about what he's actually looking at.
Exception of course is kiddie porn etc!
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:43pm |
Doesn't bother me at all. We have a few dvds that we have watched together and sometimes I notice one has been watched recently. Really doesn't bother me.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:48pm |
I hate it with a passion!!!
Especially when the sky bill is in MY name and I go ringing sky up asking what channel 242 or whatever it was is!!!!!!! Hahaha I just changed all the passwords
I may seem really evil but I just cant stand it
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:52pm |
My DF likes to joke he's not even a male sometimes  He wouldn't touch porn with a 10 foot barge pole... finds it distateful.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:59pm |
I have no problem what so ever with it. With him being in IT it is unavoidable and I really dont care if he enjoyes it or not. Healthy part of being a male. I would be worried if he was keeping it from me ect. No problem with fantasies or that either.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:18pm |
I would be bothered if he was hiding it from me but am not bothered about him watching it or reading a dirty mag etc.
I'm used to working in a male environment so I've become pretty immune to it, porn is just part of the scenery in your average workshop. Where I worked in England one guy kept changing the library computer (the one that everyone in the workshop had to use to retrieve e-mails) screen saver to some pretty gross hard core bondage stuff and funnily enough it wasn't me who complained about it it was one of the other guys, so not all men are interested in it and some are repulsed by it.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:22pm |
I arrived home from a half hour walk this afternoon,...and a plastic bag containing 3 porn dvds was in our letterbox,....very random,..it freaked me out a little. Goodness knows who they were intended for!
Dh isnt into it, but has watched some in the past. I would have a prob if he was into it behind my back.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:23pm |
I have no problem with it and DH certainly doesn't hide it from me, infact I think he likes me to know just incase it encourages me to randomly "jump him" LMAO, he wishes!!!
I would have a problem if he hid it from me though!!!
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:29pm |
I hate it and I would be quite offended if DH did it behind my back. To me, it would be as though I wasn't good enough or something.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:31pm |
Kellz wrote:
I arrived home from a half hour walk this afternoon,...and a plastic bag containing 3 porn dvds was in our letterbox,....very random,..it freaked me out a little. Goodness knows who they were intended for!
Dh isnt into it, but has watched some in the past. I would have a prob if he was into it behind my back. |
WHAT THE HECK????? Random!!!
Yep I didnt mind in the old days when I would find them under his bed at his house and he never cared that I knew, and I read the stories lol but the last couple of times hes done it when I have been out then tried to cover it up. and it p****s me OFF!! I told him if he wants to do that sorta thing tell me, preferably before I go ringing sky up accusing them of charging me for something incorrectly lol like im pretty understanding with those sort of things (which he knows all to well) Maybe im just a cow but I hate secrets in our relationship or coverups. Maybe im just being anal about it  No pun intended!
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:37pm |
I don't care. He doesn't hide it from me and we've watched it together occasionally. Doesn't do much for me though!
Like others, I just don't want the kids finding it accidentally!
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:48pm |
I don't care, we have a collection - the only thing I draw the line at is billing it to the sky account - I would rather spend the money on something we can keep.
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:59pm |
Hehe, I'm a bit scared to comment since I know some of you IRL
I find it interesting that so many couples do enjoy watching together though!!
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 9:19pm |
Hahaha i wish wish dp had a collection and well took matters into his own hands at times rather than try it on with me every night - the day he pushes a house through a letterbox i might get my "groove" back.
To be honest im the one with the dirty mag collection and he is welcome to go through it anytime he likes. Will have to either find a good hiding place or turf it in a few years though as i remember my mate ad i finding videos when we were searching her parents closet for old clothes she though it was childhood videos but we discovered otherwise. At least it was the tame crappy storyline porn certainly couldnt have handled find out her parents watch some hardcore hahaha
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Posted: 13 June 2008 at 9:41pm |
I know DH has a stash, I have watched some of it with him.
He has no reason to hide it, but has also been known to....it feels wrong when he hides it.
I would rather it be done openly.
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