Advice Needed

Well, DF, Kylah and I moved into my mums to save money. We have almost been here a year and now i hate it!
I want to move but dont know how to tell my mum, and i dont know to be honest how she will survive without the money i give her each week.

DF thinks i shouldnt care but i do.

Shes just so moody and immature. She gets sh*tty and takes it out on everyone. She makes remarks that you know are about you but she doesnt have the balls to say it to you, IYKWIM

She says stupid things like 'I will just have to live on the street'

She cant work in many places because she is almost blind, she can barely see. I want to help find her a job she can do but shes limited to what she can do. She cant do anything with a computer, or anything that involves reading because she just cant see properly.

She has my 18yo sister here, who doesnt pay anything, my uncle who only pays $120, then we pay here $300 and buy bread and milk throughout the week, plus we buy everything for Kylah.

I just dont know what to do. DF and i both hate it, e have started arguing all the time again and i dont want this to get worse.

What would you do?

Big hugs to you.


If I was in thta situation I would move. You are a family unit now so you should be looking after each other and being happy.

Can you perhaps contact the Blind Institute and see if they help with assistance of finding your Mum a job?

Good luck - I hope it all works out for you.

She has an appointment with a eye place to see how much visabitily she has, shes not blind blind, she can read texts, and has HUGE glasses and contacts but they dont help.
Shes not legally blind though.

Shes awesome towards Kylah, she plays with her all the time and loves looking after her. Its towards me and DP that she can get snarky.

I just feel really bad, like what happens if she really cant afford it, it will be my fault!!

lilfatty wrote: Move .. my daughter comes first and Id want her to live in a happy loving family environment

 

I agree 100%

She has a appointment on 31st December with winz i think, and i try to talk to her about what shes entitled to but she just immediatly assume its nothing. That she has to go out and find a job, which shes ok with but she cant do a hell of alot. Shes so negitive about everything.

We are hosting our first christms here since i was born as my grandad died a couple of months back and nana no longer feels like doing christmas like we used too, understandably. Mum turned around and aid that shes going to have to work christmas day because she has no choice and christmas will just have to wait, she has holidays but doesnt care.

FYI she does have a job at the moment, she works 6 days a week cleaning for 3 hours a day, so its not enough.

I really want her to move to a smaller house, and we go find our own but she just doesnt!

GRRRR

I would move... how are you saving money if you are spending that kind of cash?

I would move too $300 is quite a lot you guys could get a pretty decent house for less than that.

The $300 pays for everything. Food, Power, Rent. Phone and internet is free as i get it through work.

Move out.

I know you don't want to leave your mum in the lurch but you're not responsible for fixing everything for everyone else.

She managed before you moved in didn't she?

I think you should shift and enjoy your family.

I was moaning about paying 260 when I lived at my parents, and that was for the two rooms plus my share of the food etc, 300 , hell thats a lot girl !

and you said at the start of your post that you moved into your mums to save money , except it hasnt worked that way , Im not sure about rental prices in Christchurch , but you could find a 2 bedroom possibly for a lot less than 300, and after bills food etc, could start putting aside even just ten dollars a week .
I think you really really do want to go but are worried about how angry and hurt your mum will be , im with Danaj on this one , she must have managed before with out you , shes a grown woman and she is responsible for her own finances .