Newly single mama

Soooooo.... this is me.   Newly single and wondering how on earth I'm meant to cope with my new status!

Would love to hear from any other newly single, or already single mums. Life is a bit scary at the moment!!

I can't give you any advice re: being newly single as I've always been single with the lil guy, but I can def tell ya that it gets easier to cope with the status. I spent most of my pregnancy dwelling on the fact that I was going to be a single mother, mostly because no one allowed me to enjoy my pregnancy and family/friends etc all felt sorry for me and they too dwelled on our situation (with his father jetting off to aussie at the first chance he got). It gets easier, infact when he was born I was too busy trying to be a model mother that I totally forgot it took the two of us to make him . Nearly 3 years down the track and I'm the happiest I've ever been (albiet it a little lonely SOMETIMES) but I love being in charge and doing my own thing. Give it time to sink in, surround yourself with family and friends and always allow yourself 'me time' at the end of the day once Josh is asleep.

Sorry if that wasn't much help, but big hugs darl. I'm sure .Mel will have some wonderful advice & words of wisdom too

Hey there,
I was on my own with my oldest from when she was 9 months until she was 6... I totally agree with Buzzybee - surround yourself with family and friends... I had lots of support which made it soooo much easier.... I definitely didn't find it an easy road on my own but hell it was rewarding!! ... just knowing that I raised this most amazing kid and I did it on my own!!

One little bit of advice which I learnt the hard way is get the legal stuff sorted as soon as ya can!!

All the best to you, it will get easier!!

I have a brilliant idea!  Move to Wellington and come and hang out with me

Seriously though honey as I've said to you before you've practically been a single parent for a long time.  I think that now you actually are a solo mum you might find friends and family come out of the woodwork to help because they know you're doing it all by yourself whereas previously they would have assumed the responsibility was shared.

I agree 100% with freckle, if you haven't already done so get the legal stuff sorted asap.

Just take it day by day..and it will get easier. My sisters have spent the majority of the parenthood being single, and the rest of the family played a huge part in helping them. Just think...you have you're beautiful boy all to your self now!!.
We're all here for ya as well.

i have nothing to add either......but just wanted to give you a

I wish you the best of luck! just think, now you only have small children in the house (living with a man can be like having an extra child - no real help even when they try, and a real drain as they expect attention and to have you meet their needs for them) Have some fun! Reclaim your space - decorate, get some funky girly stuff in the LOUNGE, buy a gorgeous smelly thing for your bathroom, eat what you want, find as many positives in your new situation as you can.

I hope you are ok. I would have loved to have done lunch this week. Next time you are down I will BE THERE!

Just want to add another *hug*