What am i doing wrong!!???

Awwww sorry about the rough night and the screaming!

About the suckling... he's probably a hungry bubba and wanting to get your milk in properly. He will be wanting to feed off you lots and lots over the next couple of weeks. Then you'll leak everywhere and it will settle after a month or so. What he's doing is commonly called "cluster feeding" - he's gobbling up as much as he can in the evening so he has a full tummy to sleep on.

I don't like the screaming though, if that continues talk with your mw. Krystiana was really unsettled her first night because she had swallowed some liquid. Once she had a good tummy massage and burped a whole lot she was ok.

your not doing anything wrong at all... sometimes they seem to want to feed more at night. its all new for him too and he will settle down. has your milk come in yet?

whoops just saw the last post - yup milk is definately in! it came in the day i left the hospital (friday)

They usually do sleep really well for the first few nights, so he is probably just recovered from being born and is hungry now. Sometimes they scream cos they are having too much to drink as well. I was told to feed every 3 hours during the day - so around an hour for a feed, quick awake time, then a couple of hours sleep, then feed time again. Hope you have a better night tonight

Don't forget you probably will have baby blues around now too. See if you can get Bay to "help mummy look after our baby" and spend some time with him when Astin (hopefully) sleeps in the morning. You'll find your own routine in time but I've found that the older children wake early and babies sleep lots in the morning.

Don't worry.. Daniel did the same thing on day 3-5.. one of the hospital MW's warned me to expect him to wanna go to the breast and basically camp there.

To help with the tiredness though is there any chance your DH (or someone else) could look after Astin for a couple of hours so you could get a couple of hours of sleep? DH did this and told me that he would wake me if he needed feeding but it allowed me to get a couple of hours sleep and felt better for it

Congratulations on the birth of Astin

Jack did the exact same thing when Caprece came home but he did settle down after a week or so and now he loves her and keeps kissing her. I know its hard on no sleep but what really made a difference was being over the top nice to Jack and instead of telling him off for the bad things we just praised him for every little thing he did that wasn't bad.

I have also found that Caprece sleeps really well after cluster feeding. You could also get you midwife to show you how to latch Astin while your lying down so you can doze while he feeds.

gandt wrote: your not doing anything wrong at all... sometimes they seem to want to feed more at night. its all new for him too and he will settle down. has your milk come in yet?

gandt said exactly what I was going to say - your not doing anything wrong. He is encouraging your milk flow and may feed more to build up milk supply ready for it to come in more. Also newborns don't know what time of day things are so make sure you make day and night feeds different. Nite being the quick, quiet time.
You are doing a great job.

thanks for all the advice and support
last night was much better - we got 7 hours sleep with 2 lots of screaming matches and yup i realised that it was just because he wanted to feed constantly and not anything wrong ....i feel alot clearer today!! DH has been absolutely awsome!!!! hes been running around after me, looking after Bay, looking after the house, cooking, cleaning yadayada! and all with 1 hand!!! aaawwww hes such a honey!!!. I also had 3 hours of sleep this morning too!!
My MW came today and Astin has only lost 140grams which she said is not much at all really!! and she clarified alot for me which made me feel heaps better! - like i thought Astin had blood in his wees (which is normal for girls but not boys) so i kept a dirty nappy from yesterday to show her and shes pretty sure that it was just..(hhhmmm cant remember the word!)..crystalites???? or something like that!! that makes the urine go orangey! and that happens when they are still waiting for the good milk to come in which is also when they are the most unsettled but as of this morning his wees are a normal colour...YUP!! HE PEED!! ALL OVER ME JUST AFTER MY SHOWER! lol ..so hopefully the absolute worst is over!

my DH wasnt such a big help first time round with Bay cos he just didnt know what to do plus he was so young! ( he was 18 when Bay was born) and i guess i just assumed he would be the same this time especially with only 1 hand but man hes been such a champ!!!!! absolutely love him to bits!!