Dummy dilemma

Dummy dilemma

Whether or not to give your baby a dummy is a controversial topic among parents. Some parents feel it's an essential tool; others think it's an unnecessary vice. Elizabeth Gasson explains why she gave her son a dummy, and looks at the pros and cons of using one.

"If you give that baby a pacifier, you'll ruin his teeth!"
"Don't give her a dummy - it will be so hard to break the habit."
"Get that binkie out of his mouth!"

Dummies get so much negative press, new parents who want to use them must feel a bit like they're doing something illicit. Often, the use of a dummy is accompanied by a shamefaced and apologetic, "Oh, I know it's not good for her, but it's the only thing that will keep her happy!" as the offending parent surreptitiously maneuvers said dummy into their child's mouth and holds it there until the relieved baby starts merrily sucking away. Dummy-using parents face negative criticism, dirty looks, and disapproving "Tsk, tsk" noises from friends and strangers alike. And the older your child is, the more other people feel it's their right to condemn.
As new parents, my husband and I made a choice to give our baby a dummy when he was only a few weeks old. Our decision may have had something to do with the fact that our baby was premature, and the neonatal staff suggested that we use one, as it would help to develop his sucking refexes for nursing. Now that Johnathan is a year old, I'm pleased we decided to use a dummy. I have seen the benefits of it firsthand: It's an automatic soother, especially at night, and he's a much stronger feeder. But I haven't been immune to society's judgemental attitude toward the great dummy dilemma.
Whether or not to use a dummy has been a controversial subject for a long time. It seems that you either agree with using one or you don't agree at all - there is no middle ground. When I have taken my little one to play groups, I have been subjected to more than one disapproving glare from other mothers when my son comes in sucking on a dummy. I have even had a few direct comments about the negatives of using one - dependency seems to be the most common reason people give. But as I heard someone say on a popular talk show recently, "Have you ever seen a 40-year-old man sucking on a binkie?"
I have to admit that I am slightly worried about what I am going to do in order to "break" my son's dependency on his dummy when the time comes. I have read a few books and have asked a few parents, but the information all seems to be the same. It looks like we have two choices: We can go cold turkey, or let him give up the dummy himself when he's ready.
Some cultures are more accepting of the use of a dummy than others.
According to an article published in 2006 in Pediatrics magazine, "The use of pacifiers varies considerably between countries and also within countries. In New Zealand, the prevalence of pacifier use was low (10.4%), but within the country varied from 3.6% in the southern South Island to 32.3% in the northern North Island. In other countries, much higher pacifier use has been reported. In European countries, pacifier use varies between 36% and 71%. There is little information as to the reasons for such wide variation between countries and why pacifiers are introduced. Turkish and Moroccan people dislike thumb-sucking and they actively try to prevent this by offering the breast and/or a pacifer."

Why might a dummy be a good thing?
Recent research from the American Paediatric Association and Kaiser Permanente has shown that the giving babies, especially ones who are more prone to SIDS, a pacifier has drastically reduced the rate of SIDS by up to 90%. Researchers believe that it is due to the child's sucking refexes while using the dummy, which may help to rouse the child from a possibly deadly deep sleep. 
Dummies may also help to provide "increased protection from an unfavourable sleeping environment";  that is, sleeping on the child's face or side.
Dummies also are a great way of making sure no nasty objects are accidentally put into baby's mouth. However, it's important to always watch your baby, as dummies are not a fail-safe method for preventing choking.
It is said to be easier to break the habit of using a dummy than it is to stop thumb-sucking. And dummies are also generally cleaner than thumbs - and if they get grubby, you can always sterilise them!


Why you should think twice
If your baby becomes dependent on the dummy, especially at night to sleep, you might have a few waking cries in the night when the baby has "lost" the dummy. It is not recommended to use dummy clips when sleeping, especially if they are long enough for the cord to become wrapped around baby's neck.
The Mayo Health Clinic has stated that using a dummy may increase the risk of middle-ear infections in young babies. However, rates of middle-ear infections are generally low in the first zero to six months of life, when the risk of SIDS is the highest. This is also the time when your baby may be most interested in the dummy. 
Although there is controversial research about this point, the Mayo Health Clinic suggests that very early use of the dummy may interfere with establishing breastfeeding, as the texture of the dummy is different than the breast or bottle. 
Some research has suggested that the prolonged use of a dummy may delay speech. However, there does not seem to be strong evidence for this. As for dental problems, again, the Mayo Health Clinic and the American Paediatric Association have stated that using a dummy in the first few years of life does not cause long-term dental problems. However, long term, persistent use (as with thumb-sucking) can cause the top front teeth to become slanted out or the jaw to become misaligned.
The decision to use a dummy is a personal one, and whether or not you choose to use one will depend on your family's circumstances. And if you do choose the dummy, rest assured your child is unlikely to be still sucking it when he's 40.

The history of the dummy
Dummies first appeared on the scene in around 1800, patented in the US as a "baby comforter". The design was similar to modern dummies, with a rubber teat, a shield, and a handle. Unfortunately, they quickly earned a reputation as something that the "lower classes" would use, and were associated with poor hygiene. The practice of picking up a dropped dummy from the foor and rubbing it on your shirt before popping it back into baby's mouth is not solely the preserve of contemporary parents - an article published in the British Journal of Nursing in 1915 featured a complaint by a doctor bemoaning the "dummy teat" which, "If it falls on the floor, it is rubbed momentarily on the mother's blouse or apron, lipped by the mother and replaced in the baby's mouth."

 

 

 

Elizabeth Gasson is Mum to one-year-old Johnathan.

 

 

 

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16 comments for “Dummy dilemma”

  • Gravatar of Guest_41139
    Guest_41139 - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 10:29:23 p.m.
    i personally dont use a dummy with my daughter, however as a nanny of 11 years i have seen it all, the good and the bad. dummy's may have there place early on for premmy children and any with sucking issues... however my issue is with the children that walk around playing with a dummy in there mouths constantly! it is unnecessary they dont need to be pacified it is just a habit, dummys generally should be weaned at around 6 months when the child has developed a good suck and no longer needs it for this purpose they do find other mean to pacify themselves if given the opportunity, it certainly saves being woken every night by a two year old that cant find her dummy!
  • Gravatar of Guest_48094
    Guest_48094 - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 10:19:35 p.m.
    Like Sarah below - I had my son introduced to a dummy in the NICU because they needed him to settle so he wouldn't upset the other babies. I used to hate the idea of dummies but I could see that he was soothed by it at sleep times. I only let him have it at sleep times. It stayed in his cot and when I decided he was big enough to go without (around 2yrs) I did the mean mummy thing and put a hole in it so that it didn't feel right any more. The first night took 30 minutes of sadness and tears, the next night it was 15 minutes and from then on there were no problems or requests for dummy. My son can talk the hind leg off a donkey and has great pronunciation. Like almost everything - used well - why not?!
  • Gravatar of babybelly
    babybelly - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 9:27:22 p.m.
    Interesting read. As a speech and language therapist I was involved in a big campaign in the UK that had a focus on 'ditching the dummy' and I can tell you that there is evidence that supports that over use of a dummy can affect communication development. Professionally I don't have an issue with the use of dummies as sleep aid and/or to develop sucking. But use as a child is older and awake means less 'playing' with sounds/early babble which helps form early words and communication. Personally I have never given a dummy to either of my children, they were both born with strong sucking reflexes and feeding wasn't an issue and they have both developed other soothing habits for sleep (interestingly they both have a sleepy time bear and fall asleep rubbing the same part of his hat on their faces).
  • Gravatar of sezzasme
    sezzasme - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 9:19:33 p.m.
    I once was probably someone who looked down her nose at dummies. But before I knew it, I was in hospital with a premature baby, and a dummy popped in his mouth by one of the special care nurses without my knowledge. After the nurses explained the benefits, I felt pretty good about using a dummy. But I still hated the comments from others about using it - most commonly that they are filthy and that they will ruin their teeth. I have found the people who have made comments to me come from a generation where dummies were not an option and they are ill informed about the benefits that dummies can provide. My son was primarily given a dummy firstly to stimulate his sucking reflex and secondly to encourage him to keep breathing. That is far more important to me! And he had a dummy until he was 3, when his dummy split I told him that was it, he cried for half an hour and we never had any trouble after that. It is a shame we still pay so much attenmtion
  • Gravatar of Guest_46069
    Guest_46069 - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 8:52:09 p.m.
    I, like most was never ever going to be a dummy user and hated to see shildren walking aound with a dummy in their mouth at 2 and 3 years of age. but my son was given a dummy by my sister whewn she came to stay and he loves it, but it is strictly COT ONLY, it doesnt leave his bed. now he is 10 months old he is actually using it less and less and puts it in and out at his leisure. each to their own i say
  • Gravatar of zealous1
    zealous1 - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 8:03:34 p.m.
    I tried to use them with my two (as they were sucky babies) but neither would take them :-( I have no problem with dummies as sleep aids but I wouldn't (personally) want my toddler walking around with one at all other times of the day. Just my feelings though and I never give people 'a look' if they do this.
  • Gravatar of newmumcribby
    newmumcribby - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 8:03:08 p.m.
    i gave my bubba a dummy because he always wanted to suck his hands but also wanted to be wrapped up to sleep so the dummy did the best thing. slowely he started being comfortable with his hands out and now doesnt have it at all through his own choice. i think dummys are great and if your child wants it its algood to give it.
  • Gravatar of Guest_50357
    Guest_50357 - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 6:59:08 p.m.
    my oldest was feeding every 2 hrs after about 2 weeks old i tried giving him the dummy but wouldnt take one no matter how hard i tried but in the end he was a pretty relaxed but solid boy so i didnt care so much my youngest how ever was compleatly diff he wanted to be suckling all day every day if he could so used the dummy as much as his father hated it i was happy to get some sleep. after about a yr and 1 month i had lost his dummy and without noticing he had gone 48hrs with out it so i just kept going without using it. he went to sleep in the same length of time he was just as happy as before so i figgerd thats it no more dummy!! and i had then realised it wasnt my boy who didnt want to get rid of it, it was me!!
  • Gravatar of mrsm
    mrsm - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 6:57:53 p.m.
    We were using one for DS to go to sleep and it was great when he was younger. He started waking in the night when it fell out and couldn't put it back in so I introduced a blanket as a sleep aid then, after a couple of weeks, we got rid of the dummy cold turkey. He didn't seem to mind as he had the blanket instead. I don't regret giving it to him one bit and I just ignored any looks while we were out. I'm sure people would prefer him with a dummy to screaming!
  • Gravatar of aotearoachique
    aotearoachique - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 6:09:49 p.m.
    I was a thumb sucker and continued this until I was 8 or 10(!), but not in public lol, only when I went to sleep.
    My brother however was a dummy sucker & he threw his dummy in the fireplace, when he was roughly about 7 or so I think.
    I think both are perfectly acceptable & though using a dummy will have it's benefits as I can give it & take it away when the time comes eg. changing nappies I don't think either could be particularly detrimental.
    Both me & my brother's teeth were fine growing up. I would recommend just going with the flow and seeing what your child chooses if anything at all.
  • Gravatar of Paula31
    Paula31 - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 3:09:23 p.m.
    Well my parents swear by the dummy, and never mind a 40 year old I've never seen a 21 year old sucking a dummy but I remember my cousin still sucking her thumb at 21!! TRUE!! Despite all this I was so sure that I didn't want my bub to use one but on day 2 in the hospital I text my husband at 2am asking him to bring in the dummy I'd bought (just in case) as my baby boy wanted something to suck and was crying and crying, I'd put him on the breast but he would only suckle and wasn't feeding, basically he was using me as a dummy!!! As a new born he needed it alot but from about 3 or 4 months old I stopped giving it to him during the day and now he only has it when he wants to sleep - it basically means I can get him to sleep anywhere, just give him his dummy and drape a blanket over the hood on his pushchair and hey presto!! Blissful sleep... :-) Can't say I ever noticed any odd looks from anyone but then I don't really care what others think of my parenting style! :-) So long as my baby is happy then I'm happy.
  • Gravatar of roimata
    roimata - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 9:36:08 a.m.
    I use a dummy for my baby who has reflux, which was recommended by my doctor. The dummy produces saliva which washes down the acid and the sucking motion helps keep the stomach contents where they should be. It's great!
  • Gravatar of rowie
    rowie - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 9:01:21 a.m.
    * baby whacked the key board and sent this early...before I could check this for speed typing errors ;)

    **She is 1 now and can find the dummy on her own at night time.
  • Gravatar of rowie
    rowie - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 8:53:32 a.m.
    I gave my second daughter a dummy from about 4 weeks old, My midwife didn't much like the idea because she said it an cause problems with a BF latch. I had no problems however and it was a lifesaver esp for getting her to sleep in places other than her bed like the buggy and car...she can sleep anywhere as long as she has her dummy!
    I personally have had absolutely no experience with disapproving look or any comments. I was a bit defenive at first but I soon realised the benifits and felt totally confident that I was doing the right thing for her. I just wish I had given one to my first daughter who had colic and would have greatly benifited from one! Elisabeth Pantly's Pull out method was great for weaning my first daughter off the breast to sleep so will do this again but with the dummy. She is 1 now and find t
  • Gravatar of milipidi
    milipidi - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 8:34:28 a.m.
    "It looks like we have two choices: We can go cold turkey, or let him give up the dummy himself when he's ready."

    There is a third option ... Elizabeth Pantley's 'Pantley Pull Off" method. It can be found in her book 'The No Cry Sleep Solution' or via google. Knowing there was a gentle method to wean bubs off the dummy made me feel better about giving it to my DS.
  • Gravatar of JackMadi
    JackMadi - Monday, 4 July 2011 at 7:29:44 a.m.
    When I was pregnant with my 1st child, I was adamant that I would not be using one of those 'horrible dummies'. The second day we were home and he wouldn't stop crying, I insisted my partner bring one home. It was an absolute lifesaver at times. I stopped him from using it when he was 2 with no real issues and intend to do the same with his sister. I have only let them have it at home though as the disapproving stares from other people really does start to get to you after a while.


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