Starting school? Here are some guidelines

Got a little one starting school? Here’s our guide for preparing for this special milestone.

Starting primary school is an exciting time for both children and parents, but it can also feel a bit daunting and no doubt emotional. Whether it’s your first child heading off, or your youngest spreading their wings, here’s a guide to help you and your little one feel prepared and confident for the big, new season of life ahead.

GET FAMILIAR WITH THE NEW ZEALAND SCHOOL SYSTEM

Here in Aotearoa, primary school typically starts when your child turns five, although attendance is mandatory from age six. Schools have flexible start dates, so you can work with the school to choose what suits your child and situation best.

VISIT THE SCHOOL

Many schools offer open days or orientation sessions. These are great for both you and your child to meet teachers, explore classrooms, and check out who new friends might be!

CHECK THE CURRICULUM 

The New Zealand Curriculum encourages creativity and exploration in the first years, so talk to your child about fun activities like art, reading, and learning through play and let them know those are some of the things they’re going to be doing.

START BUILDING SCHOOL READINESS SKILLS

Your child doesn’t need to know everything before starting school, but building some basic skills will help them feel more confident. Chat to your school to see if they have any specifics, but a good place to start is with practical skills like making sure they can dress independently, manage lunchboxes and drink bottle, and use the bathroom confidently.

Social skills will also play a huge role, so practice sharing, taking turns, and greeting others. Role-playing scenarios like introducing themselves can be a great way to prepare.

Emotional skills will come into play also. Encourage them to talk about their feelings and try problem-solving small challenges.

CREATE A MORNING ROUTINE

School mornings can feel rushed, especially if you’re used to later or more relaxed starts for kindy or daycare. A week before school starts, do some trial mornings where you wake up, get dressed, and pack a bag at the same time you’ll need to during school days. Create a visual checklist with pictures (e.g., having breakfast, brushing teeth, putting on shoes) to make it easy for your child to follow along and know what’s expected.

Drop offs can be tricky for both parents and children, plan a solid goodbye ritual like a special hug, wave, or mantra, that reassures your child and signals that it’s time for you to leave to avoid upsetting drop offs.

GATHER THE ESSENTIALS

Make sure you have everything your child needs for their first day. Most schools provide a list, but here’s a quick overview of what you may need:

+  School bag: Choose one that’s lightweight, comfortable to carry, big enough for everything they need, and easy to open and close.

+  Lunchbox and drink bottle: Opt for ones they can manage independently.

+  Stationery: Follow the school’s list, most schools sell the packs themselves so that every student has the exact same.

+  Uniform or clothes: Check the dress code and ensure everything is labelled clearly.

+  Sunhat: Many schools have a “no hat, no play” policy during the warmer months, so be prepared for that depending on the season.

VISIT THE SCHOOL AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE

In the lead up to starting, purposely walk or drive past and point it out to build excitement and open up opportunities for questions and discussion. Pop in and take a walk around after school hours and on weekends, so by the time they start they are familiar with the environment.   

PRACTICE THE SCHOOL RUN

A few days before school starts, practice the morning school run together to alleviate any issues or nervousness the day of.

BUILD A CONNECTION WITH THE SCHOOL COMMUNITY

Getting involved with the school community helps both you and your child feel more connected. Not every parent will have enough flexibility to allow involvement in everything, but even a little bit here and there will go a long way. Prioritise attending the welcoming events and catch ups if you can, as it’s a great way to meet and get to know the other parents and teachers.

CELEBRATE THE MILESTONE

Starting school is a big deal! Celebrate it in a way that feels special for your family. Some examples are taking a special family photo as well as one outside the school with their backpack, or plan a special treat for after school – an ice cream stop on the way home, a special family dinner or their favourite dessert. And don’t forget to celebrate yourself too! It’s a massive effort getting your child off to school, well done!